Booty calls

Don't get suckered by the booty calls!

There's something about the moon rising on another day that's so relaxing. This is the time when we put the kids to bed and relax. In this calm state of being, there's no reason for your guard to be up. So inhibitions are lowered and we're open to feel and think the secret and most honest things of the heart. In this state we are at our most vulnerable.

And then he calls, with that deep, sexy voice of his. It's late. You just took a relaxing bath, and now you're all warm and toasty under the covers. The conversation goes something like this:

"Hey, babe, how you doin? Haven't heard from you in awhile."

"I'm doing okay. What's up?" you say, trying to act nonchelant, trying not to smile.

"Just thinking about you. What you wearing?"

STOP!! THIS IS ABOUT TO BE A BOOTY CALL!!

Don't ever say I didn't warn you. SC is not only about abstaining from sex at a time and duration of your choosing, it's also about being aware of the many ways you can be seduced out of your commitment.

In SC, I introduce the idea of the "sexual trigger." A sexual trigger is anything that makes you want to do the wild thang. A man's walk, his talk, his dress. Music, cologne, fine dining, dancing, flowers. It can be anything. Sexual triggers usually operate on the level of the subconscious, which is why so many people have accidental sex ("I don't know what happened, it just happened! See, what had happened was...").

Use this precious time alone to discover yourself. Identify your sexual triggers. Have fun with this exercise, but also become conscious and aware about the hundred and one things that have the power to turn you on.

Information is power. As you become aware of your sexual triggers, red flags should go up when you're being strategically seduced. You will probably continue to feel stimulated, and that's okay. You're not a stone. But now you can say "no thanks" and keep on stepping.