The July 2008 issue of Marie Claire reviews The Time Paradox by psychologist Philip Zimbardo. His point about our tendency to fixate on either the past, present, or future made me think about the things we fantasize about while practicing celibacy.
We wish we had a man. We wish we were having mind blowing sex. We wish we had the white house and picket fence. We wish we had the perfect little family.
While we're wishing and hoping and fantasizing about the future, the pleasures of right now are passing us by. That's a shame.
Zimbardo says, “If happiness is always in the future, then you’ll never be happy.” So true. Gotta practice joy right now. Don’t wait for the man. Start cracking yourself up right now!